Gender, Sexuality, and Relationships (Adult & YA)

Non-fiction books for teens and adults about gender, sexuality, and healthy relationships

Updated June 4, 2026
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Gender magic : live shamelessly, reclaim your joy, and step into your most authe
McDaniel, Rae.
Paper Book
Winner of the AASECT's Sexuality Professionals Book Award for General Audience A first-of-its-kind practical guide to achieving gender freedom with joy, curiosity, and pleasure for transgender and non-binary individuals, gender explorers, and those who love them-...
Reclaiming Two-Spirits : sexuality, spiritual renewal, and sovereignty in Native
Smithers, Gregory D., 1974-
Paper Book
Winner of the 2023 Prose Award in Cultural Anthropology and SociologyFinalist for the 2023 Publishing Triangle Randy Shilts Award for Gay Nonfiction A sweeping history of Indigenous traditions of gender, sexuality, and resistance that reveals how, despite centuries of colonialism,...
What's the T? : The Guide to All Things Trans and/or Nonbinary for Teens.
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Paper Book
Discover what it means to be a young transgender and/or non-binary person in the twenty-first century in this candid and funny guide for teens from the bestselling author of This Book is Gay. In What's the T? Stonewall ambassador and bestselling author Juno Dawson is back again, this time...
Queer : the ultimate LGBT guide for teens /
Belge, Kathy
Paper Book
Teen life is hard enough with all of the pressures kids face, but for teens who are LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender), it's even harder. When do you decide to come out? To whom? Will your friends accept you? And how on earth do you meet people to date? Queer is a...
Trans bodies, trans selves : a resource for the transgender community /
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Paper Book
There is no one way to be transgender. Transgender and gender non-conforming people have many different ways of understanding their gender identities. Only recently have sex and gender been thought of as separate concepts, and we have learned that sex (traditionally thought of as physical or...
This book is gay
Dawson, Juno
Paper Book
The bestselling young adult non-fiction book on sexuality and gender! Lesbian. Gay. Bisexual. Transgender. Queer. Intersex. Straight. Curious. This book is for everyone, regardless of gender or sexual preference. This book is for anyone who's ever dared to wonder. This book is for YOU. ...
Let's talk about it : the teen's guide to sex, relationships, and being a human
Moen, Erika
Paper Book
Is what I'm feeling normal? Is what my body is doing normal? Am I normal? How do I know what are the right choices to make? How do I know how to behave? How do I fix it when I make a mistake? Let's talk about it. Growing up is complicated. How do you...
Fine : [graphic novel] a comic about gender /
Ewing, Rhea.
Paper Book
As graphic artist Rhea Ewing neared college graduation in 2012, they became consumed by the question: What is gender? This obsession sparked a quest in which they eagerly approached both friends and strangers in their quiet Midwest town for interviews to turn into comics. A decade later, this...
A quick & easy guide to queer & trans identities [graphic novel] /
G, Mady
Paper Book
A great starting point for anyone curious about queer and trans life, and helpful for those already on their own journeys! In this quick and easy guide to queer and trans identities, cartoonists Mady G and Jules Zuckerberg guide you through the basics of the LGBT+ world! Covering...
A quick & easy guide to asexuality [graphic novel] /
Muldoon, Molly, 1987-
Paper Book
This book is for anyone who wants to learn about asexuality, and for Ace people themselves, to validate their experiences. Asexuality is often called The Invisible Orientation. You don't learn about it in school, you don't hear "ace" on television. So, it's kinda hard to be ace in a...
GLBTQ : the survival guide for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and question
Huegel, Kelly, 1974-
Paper Book
First published in 2003, GLBTQ quickly became the indispensable resource for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning teens (often referred to as LGBT or GLBTQ). This fully revised and updated edition retains all of the straightforward information and practical advice of the...
Trans teen survival guide /
Owl
Paper Book
'I wish I had a book like this when I was growing up' PARIS LEES 'Wonderful and ground-breaking' MERMAIDS Frank, friendly and funny, the Trans Teen Survival Guide will leave transgender and non-binary teens informed, empowered and armed with all the tips,...
It gets better : coming out, overcoming bullying, and creating a life worth livi
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Every story can change a life. Watch a video Growing up isn't easy. Many young people face daily tormenting and bullying, making them feel like they have nowhere to turn. This is especially true for LGBT kids and teens who often hide their sexuality for fear...
How to they/them : a visual guide to nonbinary pronouns and the world of gender fluidity
Getty, Stuart
Paper Book
"This tender, smart, personal book is a gift.Stuart Getty generously shows us, with witty illustrations and kind humor, the hows and whys of they/them pronouns. A wonderful and necessary resource that is a delight to read."-Michelle Tea, author of Modern Tarot and Valencia...
The gender identity workbook for kids : a guide to exploring who you are
Storck, Kelly
Paper Book
"A sensitive and empowering exploration of identity and expression that both educates and celebrates." --School Library Journal The Gender Identity Workbook for Kids offers fun, age-appropriate activities to help your child explore their identity...
The queens' English : the LGBTQIA+ dictionary of lingo and colloquial phrases /
Davis, Chloe O.
Paper Book
A landmark reference guide to the LGBTQIA+ community's contributions to the English language--an intersectional, inclusive, playfully illustrated glossary featuring more than 800 terms and fabulous phrases created by and for queer culture. Do you know where "yaaaas queen!" comes...
Free to be : understanding kids & gender identity
Turban, Jack L.
Paper Book
This authoritative guide to understanding and navigating gender identity from an acclaimed expert on the mental health of transgender and gender diverse youth is "a must-read for anyone seeking to better understand how we can truly help all our children thrive" (Chelsea Clinton, #1 New...
Who's afraid of gender?
Butler, Judith
Paper Book
National Bestseller. Named a Best Book of 2024 by NPR, Harper's Bazaar, W, and Esquire. "A profoundly urgent intervention." --Naomi Klein "A timely must-read for anyone actively invested in reimagining collective futurity." -- Claudia Rankine From a global icon, a bold, essential account of how a...
Reclaiming Two-Spirits : sexuality, spiritual renewal, and sovereignty in Native America
Smithers, Gregory D.
Paper Book
Winner of the 2023 Prose Award in Cultural Anthropology and SociologyFinalist for the 2023 Publishing Triangle Randy Shilts Award for Gay Nonfiction A sweeping history of Indigenous traditions of gender, sexuality, and resistance that reveals how, despite centuries of colonialism,...
Polywise : A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships
Fern, Jessica.
Paper Book
From the author of the best-selling Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy, a next-level guide for people looking to build secure attachment in nonmonogamous relationships. As polyamory continues to make its way into the mainstream, more and more people are exploring...
More than two : a practical guide to ethical polyamory
Veaux, Franklin
Paper Book
A fully revised edition, More Than Two, Second Edition: Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and Integrity by Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin, is available as of 2024. There's more than one way to love more than one person. With 175,000 copies sold, More Than Two has shined a...
Polysecure : attachment, trauma and consensual nonmonogamy
Fern, Jessica
Paper Book
A practical translation of the principles of attachment theory to nonmonogamous relationships. Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you're striving for secure, happy...
The ethical slut : a practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other freedoms in sex and love
Hardy, Janet W.
Paper Book
The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today's modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.  "One of the most useful relationship books you could ever read,...
Both/and : Essays by Trans and Gender-Nonconforming Writers of Color
Norris, Denne Michele.
Paper Book
From Denne Michele Norris and Electric Literature, a vital anthology of essays by trans and gender-nonconforming writers of color, sharing stories of joy, heartbreak, rage, and self-discovery. Featuring seventeen essays by trans people of color--spanning writers, scientists,...
Homebody
Parish, Theo
Paper Book
YALSA Excellence in Nonfiction Award Finalist In their comics debut, Theo Parish masterfully weaves an intimate and defiantly hopeful memoir about the journey one nonbinary person takes to find a home within themself. Combining traditional comics with organic journal-like interludes, Theo...
Love in a f*cked-up world : how to build relationships, hook up, and raise hell together
Spade, Dean
Paper Book
In this inspiring self-help handbook, a trans activist dares us to be the change we want to see--both out in the world, and amongst our closest connections. Lifelong activist and educator Dean Spade dares us to decide that our interpersonal actions are not...

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