Gender, Sexuality, and Relationships (Adult & YA)

Non-fiction books for teens and adults about gender, sexuality, and healthy relationships

Updated June 4, 2026
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Step bi step : the ultimate guide for bisexual, pansexual and queer young people
Clarke, Laura
Paper Book
Am I really bisexual if I haven't kissed someone of the same gender? How do I handle people sexualising my identity? What does it mean if I like one gender more than others? With advice from bi+ activists and influencers including Megan Jayne Crabbe, Sofie Hagen, Pearl Mackie,...
Gender magic : live shamelessly, reclaim your joy, and step into your most authentic self
McDaniel, Rae
Paper Book
'Rae McDaniel is a leader in their generation, matching compassion with clear-sighted vision for a sex-positive future' Emily Nagoski, PhD, author of Come As You Are and Burnout Taking everything they know from more than a decade of working with the queer and...
Sounds fake but okay : an asexual and aromantic perspective on love, relationshi
Costello, Sarah
Paper Book
Somehow, over time, we forgot that the rituals behind dating and sex were constructs made up by human beings and eventually, they became hard and fast rules that society imposed on us all.' True Love. Third Wheels. Dick pics. 'Dying alone'. Who decided this was normal? Sarah and...
Queerly autistic : the ultimate guide for LGBTQIA+ teens on the spectrum /
Ekins, Erin
Paper Book
LONGLISTED FOR THE POLARI CHILDREN'S & YA BOOK PRIZE The perfect companion to Queerly Autistic, The Queerly Autistic Workbook, is out now! 'An essential guide' LIZZIE HUXLEY-JONES 'This book is perfect' WENN LAWSON ...
What's the T? : The Guide to All Things Trans and/or Nonbinary for Teens.
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Paper Book
Discover what it means to be a young transgender and/or non-binary person in the twenty-first century in this candid and funny guide for teens from the bestselling author of This Book is Gay. In What's the T? Stonewall ambassador and bestselling author Juno Dawson is back again, this time...
Queer : the ultimate LGBTQ guide for teens
Belge, Kathy
Paper Book
Teen life is hard enough, but for teens who are LGBTQ, it can be even harder. When do you decide to come out? Will your friends accept you? And how do you meet people to date? Queer is a humorous, engaging, and honest guide that helps LGBTQ teens come out to friends and family, navigate...
Trans bodies, trans selves : a resource for the transgender community /
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Paper Book
There is no one way to be transgender. Transgender and gender non-conforming people have many different ways of understanding their gender identities. Only recently have sex and gender been thought of as separate concepts, and we have learned that sex (traditionally thought of as physical or...
This book is gay
Dawson, Juno
Paper Book
The bestselling young adult non-fiction book on sexuality and gender! Lesbian. Gay. Bisexual. Transgender. Queer. Intersex. Straight. Curious. This book is for everyone, regardless of gender or sexual preference. This book is for anyone who's ever dared to wonder. This book is for YOU. ...
The ex-girlfriend of my ex-girlfriend is my girlfriend : advice on queer dating, love, and friendship
Court, Maddy
Paper Book
This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship--written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook. Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your...
Let's talk about it : the teen's guide to sex, relationships, and being a human
Moen, Erika
Paper Book
Is what I'm feeling normal? Is what my body is doing normal? Am I normal? How do I know what are the right choices to make? How do I know how to behave? How do I fix it when I make a mistake? Let's talk about it. Growing up is complicated. How do you...
S.E.X. : the all-you-need-to-know sexuality guide to get you through your teens
Corinna, Heather.
Paper Book
The go-to sex ed guide for teens and young adults, tackling everything you want to know about sex, from consent, safe sex, emotional health and more, from the founder of scarleteen.com. As a teen or emerging adult, dealing with all the changes going on in your life, body, and...
Fine : [graphic novel] a comic about gender /
Ewing, Rhea.
Paper Book
Washington Post * 10 Best Graphic Novels of 2022 A vibrant and informative debut with "great documentary power" (Alison Bechdel), Fine is an elegantly illustrated celebration of the transgender community. As graphic artist Rhea Ewing neared college...
A quick & easy guide to queer & trans identities [graphic novel] /
G, Mady
Paper Book
A great starting point for anyone curious about queer and trans life, and helpful for those already on their own journeys! In this quick and easy guide to queer and trans identities, cartoonists Mady G and Jules Zuckerberg guide you through the basics of the LGBT+ world! Covering...
GLBTQ : the survival guide for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, and question
Huegel, Kelly, 1974-
Paper Book
First published in 2003, GLBTQ quickly became the indispensable resource for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning teens (often referred to as LGBT or GLBTQ). This fully revised and updated edition retains all of the straightforward information and practical advice of the...
Trans teen survival guide /
Owl
Paper Book
'I wish I had a book like this when I was growing up' PARIS LEES 'Wonderful and ground-breaking' MERMAIDS Frank, friendly and funny, the Trans Teen Survival Guide will leave transgender and non-binary teens informed, empowered and armed with all the tips,...
How to understand your gender : a practical guide for exploring who you are /
Iantaffi, Alex
Paper Book
'Excellent' KATE BORNSTEIN 'The compassionate, accessible manual the world has been waiting for' LAURIE PENNY Have you ever questioned your own gender identity? Do you know somebody who is transgender or who identifies as non-binary? Do you ever feel confused when...
Trans : exploring gender identity and gender dysphoria /
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Paper Book
What is gender dysphoria? How does it affect people? What do terms like intersex, cisgender, and transsexualism mean? This book, the first of its kind, presents an easy-to-read, jargon-free guide to help anyone understand the terminology and the day-to-day reality of gender dysphoria and...
It gets better : coming out, overcoming bullying, and creating a life worth living
Savage, Dan.
Paper Book
In 2010, Dan Savage and his partner, Terry Miller, uttered three words that would give rise to a global movement focused on empowerment of LGBTQ+ youth -- it gets better Growing up isn't easy. Many young people face daily tormenting and bullying, and this is...
How to they/them : a visual guide to nonbinary pronouns and the world of gender fluidity
Getty, Stuart
Paper Book
"This tender, smart, personal book is a gift. Stuart Getty generously shows us, with witty illustrations and kind humor, the hows and whys of they/them pronouns. A wonderful and necessary resource that is a delight to read."--Michelle Tea, author of Modern Tarot and...
The queens' English : the LGBTQIA+ dictionary of lingo and colloquial phrases /
Davis, Chloe O.
Paper Book
A landmark reference guide to the LGBTQIA+ community's contributions to the English language--an intersectional, inclusive, playfully illustrated glossary featuring more than 800 terms and fabulous phrases created by and for queer culture. Do you know where "yaaaas queen!" comes...
Queer sex : a trans and non-binary guide to intimacy, pleasure and relationships
Roche, Juno
Paper Book
LONGLISTED FOR THE POLARI FIRST BOOK PRIZE 'Adore, adore, adore' THE GUARDIAN 'Simply phenomenal' BITCH MEDIA 'Brave, inspirational, ground-breaking' BARBARA CARELLAS 'Deeply personal, honest and instructive' CARYN...
Trans sex : a guide for adults
Sparks, Kelvin
Paper Book
Does a post-vaginoplasty vagina have a G-spot? Why do some trans people find they enjoy anal sex more after testosterone? And can people with post-surgical vaginas experience vaginismus? Written by renowned sex blogger and educator Kelvin Sparks, Trans Sex is the...
Free to be : understanding kids & gender identity
Turban, Jack L.
Paper Book
This authoritative guide to understanding and navigating gender identity from an acclaimed expert on the mental health of transgender and gender diverse youth is "a must-read for anyone seeking to better understand how we can truly help all our children thrive" (Chelsea Clinton, #1 New...
Who's afraid of gender?
Butler, Judith
Paper Book
National Bestseller. Named a Best Book of 2024 by NPR, Harper's Bazaar, W, and Esquire. "A profoundly urgent intervention." --Naomi Klein "A timely must-read for anyone actively invested in reimagining collective futurity." -- Claudia Rankine From a global icon, a bold, essential account of how a...
Queer sex : a trans and non-binary guide to intimacy, pleasure and relationships
Roche, Juno
Paper Book
LONGLISTED FOR THE POLARI FIRST BOOK PRIZE 'Adore, adore, adore' THE GUARDIAN 'Simply phenomenal' BITCH MEDIA 'Brave, inspirational, ground-breaking' BARBARA CARELLAS 'Deeply personal, honest and instructive' CARYN...
Polywise : a deeper dive into navigating open relationships
Fern, Jessica
Paper Book
As polyamory continues to make its way into the mainstream, more and more people are exploring consensual non-monogamy in the hope of experiencing more love, connection, sex, freedom, and support. While for many, the move expands personal horizons, for others, the transition can be...
More than two : a practical guide to ethical polyamory
Veaux, Franklin
Paper Book
A fully revised edition, More Than Two, Second Edition: Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and Integrity by Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin, is available as of 2024. There's more than one way to love more than one person. With 175,000 copies sold, More Than Two has shined a...
Polysecure : attachment, trauma and consensual nonmonogamy
Fern, Jessica
Paper Book
A practical translation of the principles of attachment theory to nonmonogamous relationships. Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you're striving for secure, happy...
The ethical slut : a practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other freedoms in sex and love
Hardy, Janet W.
Paper Book
The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today's modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.  "One of the most useful relationship books you could ever read,...
Both/and : Essays by Trans and Gender-Nonconforming Writers of Color
Norris, Denne Michele.
Paper Book
From Denne Michele Norris and Electric Literature, a vital anthology of essays by trans and gender-nonconforming writers of color, sharing stories of joy, heartbreak, rage, and self-discovery. Featuring seventeen essays by trans people of color--spanning writers, scientists,...
Homebody
Parish, Theo
Paper Book
YALSA Excellence in Nonfiction Award Finalist In their comics debut, Theo Parish masterfully weaves an intimate and defiantly hopeful memoir about the journey one nonbinary person takes to find a home within themself. Combining traditional comics with organic journal-like interludes, Theo...
Love in a f*cked-up world : how to build relationships, hook up, and raise hell together
Spade, Dean
Paper Book
In this inspiring self-help handbook, a trans activist dares us to be the change we want to see--both out in the world, and amongst our closest connections. Lifelong activist and educator Dean Spade dares us to decide that our interpersonal actions are not...

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