Gender, Sexuality, and Relationships (Adult & YA)

Non-fiction books for teens and adults about gender, sexuality, and healthy relationships

Updated June 4, 2026
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Gender magic : live shamelessly, reclaim your joy, and step into your most authe
McDaniel, Rae.
Paper Book
Winner of the AASECT's Sexuality Professionals Book Award for General Audience A first-of-its-kind practical guide to achieving gender freedom with joy, curiosity, and pleasure for transgender and non-binary individuals, gender explorers, and those who love them-...
Queerly autistic : the ultimate guide for LGBTQIA+ teens on the spectrum /
Ekins, Erin
Paper Book
LONGLISTED FOR THE POLARI CHILDREN'S & YA BOOK PRIZE The perfect companion to Queerly Autistic, The Queerly Autistic Workbook, is out now! 'An essential guide' LIZZIE HUXLEY-JONES 'This book is perfect' WENN LAWSON ...
What's the T? : The Guide to All Things Trans and/or Nonbinary for Teens.
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Paper Book
Discover what it means to be a young transgender and/or non-binary person in the twenty-first century in this candid and funny guide for teens from the bestselling author of This Book is Gay. In What's the T? Stonewall ambassador and bestselling author Juno Dawson is back again, this time...
Queer : the ultimate LGBT guide for teens /
Belge, Kathy
Paper Book
Teen life is hard enough, but for teens who are LGBTQ, it can be even harder. When do you decide to come out? Will your friends accept you? And how do you meet people to date? Queer is a humorous, engaging, and honest guide that helps LGBTQ teens come out to friends and family, navigate...
This book is gay /
Dawson, James (Young adult fiction writer)
Paper Book
The bestselling young adult non-fiction book on sexuality and gender! Lesbian. Gay. Bisexual. Transgender. Queer. Intersex. Straight. Curious. This book is for everyone, regardless of gender or sexual preference. This book is for anyone who's ever dared to wonder. This book is for YOU. ...
The ex-girlfriend of my ex-girlfriend is my girlfriend : [online electronic book
Court, Maddy.
Paper Book
This illustrated book of advice on love, dating, and friendship--written by and for queer women and people of marginalized genders-is the new go-to queer relationship handbook. Fix yourself a cup of non-caffeinated herbal tea and prepare to laugh, cry, reminisce, and feel your...
Let's talk about it : [graphic novel] the teen's guide to sex, relationships, an
Moen, Erika, 1983-
Paper Book
Is what I'm feeling normal? Is what my body is doing normal? Am I normal? How do I know what are the right choices to make? How do I know how to behave? How do I fix it when I make a mistake? Let's talk about it. Growing up is complicated. How do you...
Fine : [graphic novel] a comic about gender /
Ewing, Rhea.
Paper Book
As graphic artist Rhea Ewing neared college graduation in 2012, they became consumed by the question: What is gender? This obsession sparked a quest in which they eagerly approached both friends and strangers in their quiet Midwest town for interviews to turn into comics. A decade later, this...
A quick & easy guide to queer & trans identities [graphic novel] /
G, Mady
Paper Book
A great starting point for anyone curious about queer and trans life, and helpful for those already on their own journeys! In this quick and easy guide to queer and trans identities, cartoonists Mady G and Jules Zuckerberg guide you through the basics of the LGBT+ world! Covering...
A quick & easy guide to asexuality [graphic novel] /
Muldoon, Molly, 1987-
Paper Book
This book is for anyone who wants to learn about asexuality, and for Ace people themselves, to validate their experiences. Asexuality is often called The Invisible Orientation. You don't learn about it in school, you don't hear "ace" on television. So, it's kinda hard to be ace in a...
Trans teen survival guide /
Owl
Ebook
'I wish I had a book like this when I was growing up' PARIS LEES 'Wonderful and ground-breaking' MERMAIDS Frank, friendly and funny, the Trans Teen Survival Guide will leave transgender and non-binary teens informed, empowered and armed with all the tips, confidence and...
The invisible orientation : an introduction to asexuality /
Decker, Julie Sondra.
Paper Book
A finalist for the 2015 LAMBDA Literary Award. What if you weren't sexually attracted to anyone? A growing number of people are identifying as asexual. They aren't sexually attracted to anyone, and they consider it a sexual orientation--like gay, straight, or...
It gets better : coming out, overcoming bullying, and creating a life worth livi
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Paper Book
Every story can change a life. Watch a video Growing up isn't easy. Many young people face daily tormenting and bullying, making them feel like they have nowhere to turn. This is especially true for LGBT kids and teens who often hide their sexuality for fear...
Free to be : understanding kids & gender identity
Turban, Jack L.
Ebook
This authoritative guide to understanding and navigating gender identity from an acclaimed expert on the mental health of transgender and gender diverse youth is "a must-read for anyone seeking to better understand how we can truly help all our children thrive" (Chelsea Clinton, #1 New...
Who's afraid of gender?
Bulter, Judith
Paper Book
National Bestseller. Named a Best Book of 2024 by NPR, Harper's Bazaar, W, and Esquire. "A profoundly urgent intervention." --Naomi Klein "A timely must-read for anyone actively invested in reimagining collective futurity." -- Claudia Rankine From a global icon, a bold, essential account of how a...
Polywise : A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships
Fern, Jessica.
Paper Book
From the author of the best-selling Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy, a next-level guide for people looking to build secure attachment in nonmonogamous relationships. As polyamory continues to make its way into the mainstream, more and more people are exploring...
Polysecure : attachment, trauma and consensual nonmonogamy
Fern, Jessica.
Paper Book
A practical translation of the principles of attachment theory to nonmonogamous relationships. Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you're striving for secure, happy...
The ethical slut : a practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other freedoms in sex and love
Hardy, Janet W.
Paper Book
The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today's modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships.  "One of the most useful relationship books you could ever read,...
Both/and : Essays by Trans and Gender-Nonconforming Writers of Color
Norris, Denne Michele.
Paper Book
From Denne Michele Norris and Electric Literature, a vital anthology of essays by trans and gender-nonconforming writers of color, sharing stories of joy, heartbreak, rage, and self-discovery. Featuring seventeen essays by trans people of color--spanning writers, scientists,...
Homebody : A Graphic Memoir of Gender Identity Exploration-A YALSA Excellence in Nonfiction Finalist
Parish, Theo
Paper Book
YALSA Excellence in Nonfiction Award Finalist In their comics debut, Theo Parish masterfully weaves an intimate and defiantly hopeful memoir about the journey one nonbinary person takes to find a home within themself. Combining traditional comics with organic journal-like interludes, Theo...
Love in a f*cked-up world : how to build relationships, hook up, and raise hell together
Spade, Dean
Paper Book
In this inspiring self-help handbook, a trans activist dares us to be the change we want to see--both out in the world, and amongst our closest connections. Lifelong activist and educator Dean Spade dares us to decide that our interpersonal actions are not...

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